Dating and Seduction - The Three Rules of Dating
By Sebastian Drake Dating is a crazy thing. Most people on oursociety haven’t figured it out. But it’s pretty cool once you’ve gotten itfigured, like my good friend and parter VincentDiCarlo. Allow me to share with you Vin’s Three Rules ofDating: 1) Have it be convenient for you. 2) Keep it inexpensive. 3) Make sure you can talk where you’re at. Or, if you prefer, The Three C’s of Dating: C1) Convenient. C2) Cheap. C3) Conversation. This will give you the best chance to get thegirl. Dates that are not Convenient for you willmake you seem like you’re working hard to impressher, or of low status. For this reason, don’tdrive three hours to see her, and certainly don’tplan a grand production with a limo and a stringquartet for your first dat. Cheap! Cheap is good. Cheap is no pressure. Awoman would rather have a pleasant walk through apark with a guy that’s no pressure than go out toeat an expensive restaurant that’s heavypressure. As a general rule, the more somethingcosts, the more pressure is involved. Also, womendon’t want to feel like you’re trying to buytheir attention. For these reasons, it’s actuallybetter to keep dates cheap. I’m not saying BEcheap, I’m saying go on inexpensive dates. And conversation, the all important thing thatlets you find about each other. You need a datethat lets conversation go smoothly and easily. Here’s a pop quiz - What are the two most commondates? If you answered movies and dinner, you’recorrect. But both violate cardinal rules ofdating. With a movie, there’s no chance for conversation.For two hours, you’re sitting there in the darkand can’t really talk. That’s all well and goodif you’re with your girlfriend, but on the firstfew dates, you don’t want that. And as anadditional negative, movies are getting more andmore expensive these guys. It could cost $30 fortwo tickets, popcorn, and drinks these days. Howit costs that much is beyond me, but that’s tooexpensive for a first day for sure. Dinner. Well, dinner’s not cheap. Even cheapdinner’s not cheap. So she might feel like you’retrying to buy her attention, which is always bad.It makes women uncomfortable, and makes her thinkyou’re of low status. Like you need to buy herattention. But here’s something many people don’t realizeabout dinner: It’s bad for conversation. You’resitting directly across from each other with verylittle subject matter except for menus. There’slots of pressure, and if the conversation slowsdown, it can be awkward, which wouldn’t be thecase in many of the dates I’m about to suggestfor you. Planning dinner as part of a date is nogood, so leave it alone. Good Dates: Remember, you want your dates to be Convenient,Cheap, and be able to have some niceConversation. How to do that? A favorite ‘date suggestion’ from me is coffee. Ilike coffee, since you’ve got options. You go geta cup of java with her on a Saturday afternoon.If she shows up and turns out to be the type ofgirl you don’t like (either she’s not physicallyyour type on further inspection, or has nothinggoing on upstairs) then you can leave no problem. But if she turns out to be an awesome girl? Aftercoffee, you can go grab a slice of pizza. Yes,it’s okay to eat on dates… making your dateitself getting a meal is bad, but if you’respending time together and get hungry, go eat.You’re basically treating her like someone you’revery comfortable with. If you went to get coffeewith a close friend, or one of your relativesthat you like, and got hungry, you’d say let’s gograb a bite to eat. No pressure there. Here’s a great line if you’re at coffee: “Youhungry?” If she answers yes, you say, “Okay metoo, let’s grab a slice of pizza.” If she saysno, you say, “That’s okay, you can watch me eat.”The second one, in particular, gets wonderfulresults and you just eat something light in frontof her and keep conversing. Other things: Walk around and look at touristystuff if you live in a city. Believe it or not,most people never see the sites in their homecity. I live on the East Coast, and I’ve neverseen the Statue of Libery in New York City, neverwalked the Freedom Trail in Boston, and haven’tbeen to any of the memorials in Washington D.C.Of course, I’ve seen all the touristy stuff inLondon and Mexico City and many western states,but that’s the point. If you walk down the roadfrom where you live to some historical monument,it’s a great time, and there’s a good chanceshe’s never been there. Of course, if you’re not in your home city, funlittle places still work too. You can have hersome you around a bit, which is good. As I mentioned earlier, I like coffeeshops.Starbucks-esque places are okay, but I reallylike artistic coffee shops, with different musicand fun things to look at. My favorite coffeeshopof all time had different music playing everytime I went, interesting local art on the walls,and one of the large unisex bathrooms hadfloor-to-ceiling chalkboards lining all fourwalls. People would write poetry and drawpictures on the chalkboards, or just sign theirname. Let me tell you, my friend, that was theeasiest bathroom in the world to get your dateinto with you! Another date I like: Window shopping. If you walkthrough a mall, there’s going to be plenty ofinteresting stores. You can have a cup of coffeeif you like coffee (or tea or hot chocolate orwhatever), and walk around looking at interestingthings. One of my favorite shops is a largekitchen shop with all sorts of cool things.They’ve got all sorts of crazy cookinginstruments, various pots and steamers for alldifferent types of cuisine, recipes and sauces ,cool looking plates, and anything and everythingelse you could imagine. From there, it’s reallyeasy to situationally relevantly talk about whatshe can cook, and what she’s going to cook foryou! Walk into whatever stores you please. Just becareful with Victoria’s Secret: Vincent once wasin Victoria’s with a girl he was on a date with,holding up lingerie and talking about she’d lookgood in. His date was loving it, eating it up,but then her friend walked over! Yikes, Vin tellsme the girl blushed pretty hard. Other places to go: Walks through parks, and byrivers and ponds. Free or cheap baseball games,either a local team’s or even a nearby school’s.Iceskating and rollerskating are actually prettygood first dates. They’re cheap if you go ontheir discount night (it’s Tuesday at my favoriterollerskating place), it’s convenient for me, andit’s great for conversation. And by the way, I’mnot exactly the best rollerskater in the world.In fact, I’ll admit it: I’m downright terrible. But it works well anyway! I say to her as we’rewalking in, “Okay, I can’t skate at all, soyou’re going to have to kinda ‘be the guy’ andhold my hand and make sure I don’t fall over,”said half-kiddingly. And to top it off, when weget our skates, I say, “You got this one?”Meaning, “Are you paying?” They do most of thetime, and it sets a good frame. Alright, so you’ve gone on a fun date or two withher. First you met for coffee, then walked aroundand went window shopping and looked at stores,had a bite to eat, and parted. Second date, youwent rollerskating or to one of those fun museumslike the Spy Museum in D.C. Now, you want to haveher over to your place. What’s a good date forthat? Cooking dinner with her. One of the best dates before you sleep with awoman. Not so good first date, but after that,it’s great. Now, I don’t want to hear you can’tcook - I can’t, either. I make exactly one dishwell that doesn’t involve grilling. But that’sall I need. I make a spaghetti with a mushroomand onion meat sauce, and French bread. It’s nothard. Learn one dish, or just have a general idea ofwhat you want to make. Then go over to her placewith the ingrediants, or have her come over toyours. From there, give her duties as you cook. Ihave my date stir the pasta or sauce while I diceup vegetables and get the meat ready. After we make a mess cooking, we wash up and chatwaiting for dinner to finish. Then we eat dinner,and maybe a little fresh fruit at the end. Havingher feed you strawberries is a nice touch if youcan pull it off. And from there, use your imagination. When itcomes time to bring them to the bedroom, rememberto use situational relevance. So you can eitherstart kissing her in the living room, then bringher by the hand to the bedroom, or you can saythere’s something interesting in your bedroomthat she just needs to see… Sebastian Drake has been writing in the fields of Seduction, Diplomacy, and Leadership for the past five years. In the past two years, he has won praise and accolodates for his oustanding and effective coaching on live programs, workshops, and seminars. He is a cofounder of theApproach: The Science of Social Chemistry for the Modern Gentleman, bringing profound lifestyle changes to any man’s social, romantic, and sex life. Find out what your skill level is with a free Personal Evaluation by visiting: Attract Women: theApproach Seduction Workshops We recently reviewed the book ‘The Game’. 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